So many changes hit me in a short period of time after I arrived at my college home that it will take a few posts to convey the impact of that first year. I am grateful to Geoff Le Pard who blogs as TanGental for his series of posts about arriving at his university. His reminiscences awoke many of my own, long in deep storage. Our experiences were quite different, but his sense of culture shock rang a bell.
As I settled into my dorm room, after trudging up three flights of stairs and locating it on the far end of the building, I heard a loud rant coming from across the hall. It was a woman screaming the “f-word” at the top of her lungs yelling somewhat like “f” my “f”ing shoes, where the “f” are they? Today I suppose that would have no effect on an 18 year old girl. However, not only had I never heard a girl talk like that, I had never even heard an adult man use that language. The worst word I ever heard with any frequency, and that almost exclusively from men, was “damn.”
I can clearly recall walking on into my room, climbing up to my top bunk(the bottom already having been claimed by my new roommate)(without consultation–another shock) and wondering what I had just done. And whose idea was this anyway? Oh, yeah. Mine.
What a rude welcome to your dorm!!
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Absolutely.
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Oh my that is a rude awakening……..I remember my first week of college in the dorms, I thought I was living in a frat house. 🙂
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Was yours coed? Fortunately we still had single sex dorms.
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yes, it was coed by suite. most dorms STILL don’t have it this way. I have a daughter leaving for college this fall and they have no co-ed dorms…. 🙂 and I am THRILLED.
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I think it is absurd to have boys and girls share living quarters. I am glad that neither I nor my daughter had to tolerate that situation.
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it was absolutely surreal……..I think I could write a book about my 1st year in college in that co-ed dorm.
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That would be something to read.
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yes, thank you! 🙂
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😊
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Ouf….what a shock of a ‘welcome’ to your new home..,
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I immediately felt out of place.
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I can see why
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O my! Hence begins the education!
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I am old enough to remember when women weren’t as ‘bad’ as men in a number of things: language, aggressive driving, drugs, etc. I would’ve preferred that, in the name of equality, women not descend to the level of men, but men rise closer to the level of women. But the latter was never going to happen, and so here we are. Son of a bitch!
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LOL
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P.S. Pardon my language!
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A bit of a culture shock.
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To say the least.
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Never experienced living in a dorm. That was indeed shocking.
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You didn’t miss much, Arlene.
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Took the bottom bunk without any discussion? The nerve! Why, even in Army Basic Training, my cubicle mate and I talked about it (briefly), flipped for it and I lost. It took seconds but there were no hard feelings. 😉
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She was never a very congenial roommate.
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Oh, my!🙀
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Never had the dorm experience. Sadly, the vocabulary would not have been a surprise to me.
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Were you on the East Coast then too?
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No been in So Cal since I was 1.
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Maybe Oregon was tamer then.
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I can imagine that, though I never experienced it. Over here, the top bunk is preferred, especially in prisons. 🙂
Best wishes, Pete.
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I was certainly more agile in those days, so the top was ok.
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That was definitely a culture shock.
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I have no idea how it was so different on the two coasts.
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We’re you in a big city in Oregon? Boston has always been progressive.
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I was in Portland but Portland in those days was extremely provincial. Very different from Portland today.
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That makes sense as to the vast differences. Our daughter lives in Bend. On our first trip to Oregon I felt like a three-year-old looking at mountains and forests.
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I think you have to think of maybe the pre-trendy Portland, Maine to think of a place dependent on fishing and lumber as Portland was as I grew up.
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I understand, and it makes sense for your drastic change.
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My goodness, that is some welcome. What a shock!
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Completely.
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The culture shock is often overwhelming. No one in my family ever used language of that sort either. Things have changed.
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I might as well have gone to a foreign country.
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I can imagine, Elizabeth.
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My background was also sheltered, Elizabeth. I never went to university, I studied through a correspondence university and worked the whole time. A bit like now with this Covid-19 pandemic, I have worked the whole time, it is my destiny [smile].
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I think I might have learned a lot through correspondence, since my life after school has been through my own reading and viewing. I worked all through college, by the way, though not full time except in the summers. And I worked until I retired–from 11 to 60 essentially.
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Oh how times have changed! I worked in a college for a while and remember being in the girls’ washroom, washing my hands at the sink, when a group of students came in. Every second word out of their mouths was the f-word. I think they needed to take more English classes to expand their repertoire of adjectives.
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Many years later we lived across the street from a pair of brothers who only had two words in their vocabulary, beginning with “f” and “sh.” I was astonished at how many parts of speech they were able to fill with those two words. It got comical after a while. Disgusting but comical.
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That would have been a big culture shock Elizabeth!
I had a conservative upbringing too & only heard that word after I had left home…a word I still find offensive to this day!
Blessings,
Jennifer
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I am still offended, but not as surprised.
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